Don’t you wish you cared a little less about what other people think?
I often say in my events and seminars that ‘99% of people live their lives determined by the thoughts of strangers’, and for this week’s video I’ve done something a bit different…
I take you behind the curtain of mine and Jameson’s strategy for these weekly videos, I share a lesson on how to stand strong behind your opinions, and we give a practical takeaway to stop caring about what other people think immediately.
Don’t be afraid to innovate. Don’t be confined to one thing. Give yourself the space to manoeuvre, and try different things within your personality.
Challenge: Next time you go out, can you go the entire time without getting into the subject of your work? (or whatever it might be you usually latch onto in conversation)
Take a risk and challenge yourself by testing the limits of your own charisma and confidence.
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If you like this kind of “irrelevant sh*t” – not explicit love life advice – let me know in the comments below! I’d love to hear what you made of this one, and how it helps you push the bounds of your personality.
I really liked this video and the points you were making about trying to live outside the boxes we have built for ourselves, and our lives. I don’t like Kanye West or his music. Though I do respect him for having more confidence then most, and for speaking alot of truth, minus the crazy. Now I do find that his affiliations with the Kardashians makes him seem hypocritical at times, but in this interview I think he makes some very valid points: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dV2QWRXrUI
I was still pissed though that his interview went on for so long, that it cut off the Arctic Monkeys’ performance! Ha!
Thanks for being the mom to my Kanye West LOL
Hi Matt,
I loved it, thank you so much for caring with us :) it makes me feel so good that I’m not alone with my questions.
xoxo
You’re so motivational that it should be illegal.
LOVE IT! Deep to the core Mr Hussey. Keep it up, its nice to see that other side.
Brilliant video Matt, really resinated with me, thanks, has given me the kick up the butt I needed to stop being the person everyone expects me to be. :)
The comments you mention at the beginning of the video are thoughtful comments from people who truly appreciate and admire your work. Why so much anger at the few who dared express an opinion that was not only theirs? Not everyone writes comments, and few dare to criticize. I for one agree with some points in those comments.
Maybe those comments hurt cause they are not from trolls? Maybe you’re just now getting used to negative comments from fans? Either way, a 15 minute video response and the angry tone and mocking of someone’s use of ellipsis(cause it’s okay for you to criticize someone in a rude way) only prove that you care too much about such comments.
Well, really, nobody gets 100% approval, it’s absolutely and sometimes it’s good to pay attention to criticism. You don’t have to agree with it, but sometimes it’s good to “listen” without feeling hurt. It’s not about you, it’s not about your work as a whole, it’s just about one video. Hope you feel better soon and learn to deal better with criticism that is meant to be constructive, even if you don’t think it is or if you don’t agree with it.
This is wonderful advice!!! I did this in my life in a big way… I was always the one to avoid danger, or anything that I might get hurt by. So I challenged myself and I went skydiving! Since doing this I have challenged myself in other ways, including strength training. And at the age of 40 I was able to do a “full clean”! Something I would NEVER have thought I would be able to do, or would ever want to do! Let alone at the age of 40! We are capable of SO MUCH!! We just have to have the courage to explore! Thank you Matt for all of your wonderful insights!!! Keep being the magnificent person you are! :)
I like it. I like all videos about personal grow. Keep doing it pls. It helps a lot!
Excellent insightful video!
Thanks!
I actually think that choosing Kanye West as an example was a good move – because it somehow was picked from a peculiar side of the spectrum AND was valid. (Bare with me this time.)
Hypothetically:
(Knowing that “x” applies to paradigm cases and “x” is “being innovative”)
When using a non-paradigm case e.g. K.W., to demonstrate that “x” applies, it shows that “x” applies to more than just to common cases e.g. Pink Floyd -safe guess? :p
In other words, there are more innovative people out there than one might think, be aware of or would like to agree with, regardless of whether they are or are not perceived as popular by you or anyone else. Being innovative isn’t solely the privilege of our favorite artist.
It’s almost as if Matt has used opposite analogies such as pepper and salt but chose to mention the pepper leaving it open for the audience to pick their salt.
Hence, I’d like to think that mentioning K.W. serves (amongst other things) to expand peoples perception of the existing variety of innovative individuals.
It’s more than just about Matt making a valid point, it’s about illustrating that the point he made applies also to the “other” side of the spectrum – in this case it was from the West side.
Would you have preferred “Far East Movement”?
Last but not least, “there’s no accounting for taste.” :)
P.S.: Even a brownie from you Matt won’t make me hit the *replay* button on KW. ;)
Lol clearly I meant “bear with me”
Awesome video! Love the honesty and fab tips! First time I saw your stuff and it’s fabulous! Stay cool ;)
Hi Matt!
I agree with having the space to show different personality facets!
I really like the variety of videos you have been posting. While the dating tips are helpful and I enjoy those videos, my favorites are the videos that discuss self-improvement and enhancing oneself/one’s life. Please keep them coming!
Best,
~Erin
I am not a particular fan of Kanye West, but the context in which you used hi was great. I think it also follows your program of believing in yourself , going outside your comfort zone, and living YOUR life .
Rose
You inspire me, Matt. You’re incredibly creative…and keeps me on my toes. I’m difficult to impress. X
Great video thank you!
Matt,
It’s not irrelevant sh*t!!! This can most definitely be applied to my love life, or any other area of my life. I love all of your videos, and I think it’s great that you branch out and talk about other subjects. We’re getting to know you through your blog and I personally love it!!!
Christine
Hi Matt:
Love the subject of this video!! It really brought home something I learned at the beginning of this Summer and how family and close colleagues viewed me as sweet and “nice”. Someone who is a bit shy and would rarely rock the boat.
Only a handful of people have seen other sides of my personality – funny, cheeky, witty or intellectual. I have begun to try to show other facets of my personality, with a good response so far, and after this video, I am inspired to expand that effort .
Want to thank you for focusing on other areas of self development and growth and not limiting yourself to relationship advice. Keep up the amazing work!
Warmest Regards,
Shev x
I always want to bring you the best of my brother and I’s knowledge in every area, so don’t worry, we’ll keep it coming!
Matthew x
I really like your “shit” videos. One of my good friends told me that before I should worry about finding love that I need to love myself and love my life first. I think your videos that stray away from the usual ones help me to challenge myself to create a life where I am challenged to change and to push myself to use my potential. When I do those things with my life I am happier and feel better about myself and how I am living, and I think that kind of feeling from within a person radiates around them. I know I’m attracted to people like that so hopefully people will be attracted to me. In other words, when I’m doing me, I think it will make other people want to do me too. Lol
@ the last line: LOL literally, thanks. Not to be lesbian (bless their gay hearts) but that made you totally doable to me. ;)
The first thing I wanted to find out is your astrological sign and you are a Gemini, a MUTABLE sign. I can really relate to that as I am a Sagittarius (another mutable sign). Creativity/innovation expand your knowledge and forces you to stop with the same old same old. And also I love when I am learning something new from someone else. You are bringing a different kick to your videos, that is great.I love exploring whether it is a drink, a food, a place, even a person hahaha….. So yeah explore one’s personality and see how far you can go with it. I went far, very far…………and I am happy with the way I behaved – I felt totally connected with myself. And I think that is a very important aspect.
so… you don’t care about the comments? unless is something nice said?