A recent scientific study (…well Marie Claire) showed the two most romantic things you can do for your partner are…
1) Put on a candle-lit dinner. 2) Write a hand-written love note. This got me thinking…
There are many cliché romantic things we can do for our partners, but I’m a big believer in the most romantic things being unexpectedly romantic.
As such, I’ve compiled a list of 7 unromantic romantic things you can do for your partner.
By the way, ladies, I would suggest you send this video to the man in your life.
If you’re single, if nothing else, send it on to your uncle, brother, or someone you know whom this will earn huge brownie points for.
They’ll thank you later!
1) See the terrible movie your partner really wants to see
When your partner’s shown you some awful trailer that they think is great, book the tickets to go see it.
I know you don’t want to go. They know you don’t want to go, but it’s going to mean the world to them that you took the initiative instead of being dragged along kicking and screaming.
2) Surprise them with their favourite lunch
Surprise your partner at their office by taking them their favourite lunch. This will be totally unexpected, and you get extra points if it’s a spot that’s way out of reach for them during their lunch break.
3) Run them a bath
Run a nice, warm bath. Get some bubbles going, a few candles and some music…
Then get the hell out.
The whole point of this one is you’re not there. Romantic things don’t always have to involve the two of you. You can do something romantic by leaving them to it. This one involves them relaxing and you giving them space.
4) Take their mum out to lunch
Spend some quality time with the person they care about most.
This doesn’t seem romantic as it’s not with them at all, but it will go massively appreciated that you’re putting in the time and effort with someone they care about.
Treat them well, make it on you, and show them a great time.
5) Wash her car
This is a nice, manly thing to do. Totally out of the blue and she’s going to love it.
6) Make her feel like a princess at that time of the month
This might just be the least romantic sounding of all, but there are going to be times where you lady has her ‘lady pains’.
When it gets to that time of the month, you have to think of all of the little things you can do for her in the moment.
Have a ritual set up. Get her a heating pad, rub her back, put on her favourite Disney movie, and do all of the little things that will ‘ambush her with kindness’.
Make her feel like a princess at a time where she’s normally used to guys not having a clue how to take care of her.
7) Learn how to make HER cup of tea
Everyone has their own particular way of doing things.
Learn the subtle intricacies for how your partner likes things done, and it will amplify the effect of you ever doing them.
Not only are you making her a cup of tea, breakfast in bed, or cooking a fancy dinner, you’re doing it the way she’s always fantasied about.
And that’s it!
Sometimes the most romantic things you can do are seemingly the most unromantic things you could do. It’s these little moments where you really show your partner you’re there for them in ways that no one else is.
Anyone can throw together a candle-lit dinner on a first date or write a love note. Here’s a list of things that show you know your partner inside out, and that you care deeply for them.
Question of the day…
What’s the most unromantic romantic thing someone has done for you? It doesn’t have to be something that seemed romantic to everyone else, but it felt romantic to you. Let me know in the comments!
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Hi Matt and team,
when my boyfriend and I started dating, I wasn´t that keen on him.He called me lots of times and left messages that i did not bother to answer because I felt he was too clingy. The afternoon I came home from work, I saw a rose stuck to the door! That was a turningpoint. It was the most romantic and unexpected gesture a man has done for me in a long time and i started to fall in love with him.
How have you never heard of Tori Amos?! Jameson and I would get along. I like these tips. Sending them to my boyfriend of four months. I think he’ll enjoy them :)
I totally concur with this. Acts of service and quality time being my two highest love languages… Something as simple as taking out the trash or getting an oil change done in my car speaks louder than those typically romantic things.
Always suprising!!! Matt, I love you!!!!!!
I could make you a cracking cuppa tea Matt!
I don’t know if this unromantic but I dated a guy that used to always walk on the side closest to the road, after while I ask him why he did it. He said it was to protect me from any puddles cars may hit or if a car hit the side walk he would get hurt first.
I cannot believe I’m watching a video about exactly what I was just thinking about!
Matthew you’re right, men should make a woman feel like a princess on their time of the month. I have a back ache and was just thinking… basically of you’re advice in what you gave (as it is that time of the month for me).
Now I’m going to make myself a cuppa tea… strong, two sugars and not too much milk lol
Great words of wisdom (especially about washing the car)
Bahahahaha you are such a dork…Marie Claire:p I have to say great tips and I do wonder do you practice what you preach? Also I can’t believe you don’t know who Tori Amos is but then again you were probably still in diapers/nappies when she made it big.
Hey Matt! As always just love to hear your ideas, as always so great! This really made me think about the reverse side of things as well – things that I could do that show I really care. Putting more into the ‘little things’ so to speak makes the world of difference.
I couldn’t agree more!! if there would be any guy in my life I would forward this…hm…ok….I just cought myself saying i am not dating….ok ok …. i will buy The Man Myth :). and thank you so much for taking care of women love life.
Hello Matthew,
First of all, thank you for doing such a great job. I am following you for three years now and just can’t get enough of your videos! you are my dictionary when I wonder about men.
So, i have a question for you and I sincerely hope you will answer on my questions since I am not able to join your seminars because of the distance ( I am from Central Europe)
maybe you can make a video or give me an advice on the following topic: ” what does it really change when you are not just dating anymore but you become his girlfriend… How big is for him when he tells you that he looks at you as a girlfriend? How big is this transition for him? As big as for women? bigger? ” Because for women is huge and I am more trustful, more cosy…but i dont want to scare man off? how should I behave in this situation? Like before? do i have a right to call him more often or ask him for advice…
if you find this interesting please make a video and just elaborate this topic.
and another question for you is: ” do you think some men are afraid of successful women, when they get a feeling you are strong and able to pursue your dreams? So, do ” men that are afraid of successful women” exist? because from my experiences they do…or maybe I play the role of an intellectual woman and he just wants to hire me for a business project :). it is a thin line here…
hope to see you very soon in other parts of Europe ( not just UK) too!
Excellent video – great suggestions AND hilarious! Bravo! :)
BTW: Could also be referred to as a crime scene!! lmao!! (Maybe some would find offense to that…apologies)
Lovely Video… a bit funny but I got the concept of it. Keep it up!
most unromantic romantic,
i tell you some you chose the most
let me sleep on his favorite side of bad (done)
be friends with my friends (wish)
surprise me with my favorite ice cream for no reason (wish)
take the initiative on something i want to do (wish)
not to turn immediately after “you know what” (kind of done)
kiss me discretely and unexpectedly (done and should always)
respect and encourage my space, get me some to drink (done)
not to blow me away when i need care (wish) unfortunately
complement when i am finely ready to go (done)
etc….
your blog color is nice i like because its my favorite color.
the most romantic thing i’ve ever seen was in the movie “no strings attached” when Ashton made a period mix for Natalie, was original, cheap and very meaning
your blog is so nice.i like it
nice blog i love it
Love this. Boys take notes. I thought the “jameson, you know me so well” was super funny
My ex used to make me things. Silly things. He once made me a card which had a plastic cow (my favourite animal) that popped out when you opened the it. The card was covered in pretty pictures that he’d cut out from magazines. It was totally unexpected and sweet.