It’s funny how often women tell me they don’t know when a guy is flirting.
Because to us men, we think we’re being so obvious.
If you’re confused about whether he’s interested, make sure you learn these 7 sneaky signs…
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You’re hilarious as always with your play..
And can you make the same video but sings for men? So they will understand us? Ha ha.. And maybe ee will understand ourselves :)
Sometimes I wonder when I walk across a guy if I should look at him or not, if he seems interesting, so it won’t make the opposite effect..
My husband fits the bill on all seven signs with other women, even though he says he is “just being friendly” and it is all in my imagination. I would add an 8th sign, which is touching the shoulder or arm in some way… even if very limited and lightly, don’t you think? This is my husband’s best flirting move. And of course, then women start touching him back. We have had many an argument over this, and he refuses to change his behaviour even though he knows it hurts my feelings. Am I in the wrong? He says I am over-reacting. I dont deny him sex; actually it is pretty good, but his tendency to “couple up” with other women at parties we attend makes me want to leave him. (He also sat with another wife on a tour bus in Spain and left me sitting alone). I dont require or need him to be at my side 24/7 either , nor am I particularly needy. I just want a respectful husband, not a panting, sniffing hound.
No, you’re not in the wrong. He’s showing a blatant lack of respect toward you and that’s not something anyone should just brush off as “well I may be overreacting.” I’ve seen this happen to friends, strangers, and experienced disrespect too. There was a time when I let people’s comments stating that I was overreacting, being melodramatic, or that they just didn’t want to deal with my “issues” anymore silence me and beat me down to try to please them. I’ve experienced that from friends, boyfriends, even family. It wasn’t until I started valuing myself that I demanded respect from others, and I would do the same. If someone won’t respect me, even after communicating with them, then I don’t need or want them in my life.
I’ve also seen this happen repeatedly to my Mom. She was cheated on, abused, and there were many arguments. I have a vague memory from when I was 4 and my parents were fighting…I said if they didn’t stop I would run away… My Mom has come a long way and gone through a lot more since then to the point where she’s disgusted with just the thought of relationships and she has isolated herself pretty much from everyone except her kids…
I don’t want to see anyone else suffer like that. Not even a fraction of it.
Something I realized a few years ago is that it’s OK to walk away. To realise the things that might be causing you harm or holding you back and cutting them out of your life or giving the necessary distance.
Something I realised only a year ago along with that is that if the above is happening and you realise that you can’t help the other person’s personal-growth, no matter how much you might want to, then it’s time to walk away. Sometimes that’s what you have to do in order to allow your wings to become strong.
I hope Matt will give you more advice here. But ultimately the decision rests with you. I wish you the best.
Thank you, Rowan, for your viewpoint. It definitely gives me food for thought.
Sorry to hear this. I’ll write more.
So I tell my boy friend that he is allowed to cheat…if he chooses too…knowing that I reserve the same right to exercise it once he does it.
Can I recommend you start to do the same, flirt with other men, sit next to them, touch their arms and etc. and watch his response to your new behavior.
I’ve told my partner that I don’t mind if he flirts with other women in social situations. I truly believe it’s natural and harmless most of the time, and I’m a flirty person myself. We both enjoy interacting with new people and being a bit the center of attention. However, when he does it when we are together in a gathering of mutual friends, it makes me feel embarrassed. He does love and respect me, but I don’t want because of some silly behavior for my friends to think he doesn’t.
The same with social media; when I told him it bothered me when he responded enthusiastically to girls from his past who wrote flirty things publicly on his wall, he stopped doing it. But I told him I don’t mind if he talks to them privately; it’s just that doing it in a public forum is embarrassing for me. To him, he thought he was being friendly… I think he really didn’t understand how it impacted to me until I explained it to him.
I don’t know if maybe explaining that logic, and seeming reasonable might get him to understand your position and try to change his behavior.
I like this post, thanks for the tips! Question though. What is up with the guys these days that will only iMessage me saying they are interested or want to go on a date? Personally, if a guy doesn’t have the courage to even call me or approach me in person I’m kind of turned off. This has happened 3 times in the past 3 months and none are people that never run into me. I even had one go so far as to continue texting me on iMessage when he wasn’t willing to say two words to me in person when I see him at work everyday. Seriously….
Beta men are shy. Alpha men go for it. It’s a great way to weed out the Beta boys from the Alpha Men. Real feminine women love Alphas. Masculine women go for the Betas.
Are the signs difderent between existing friends? Do they change their minds about you later in a friendship?
Well this was ever so “subtly” entertaining. Thank you!
Actually I loved the role play. It was fantastic! xD
Great tips and food for thought on flirting, Matthew. Thank you. You’re hysterical sometimes. I liked the mix of comedy and subtlety – the swagger of laying across the table AND chair. So funny.
Matthew, when women see a guy wearing a V-Neck T-shirt, we think he’s gay.. Crew necks Dude! Crew Necks!
Speak for yourself!
I think he looks good in a v-neck.
I LOVE v-necks on a guy – super sexy!!!
What? Since when does a style of T Shirt denote anyone’s sexual orientation?!
Matt, you rock those V-Necks!
My boyfriend wears V neck–he looks so damn hot!!!! P.S. He’s definitely not gay.
Doesn’t matter if he’s straight V Neck is a women’s cut. Makes men look gay. Even my gay friends say it too.
I design and order t-shirts for the gym I work at in a large US city. When we ordered tees last summer, we went for a V-neck. Found that guys who are in the Gen X range (mid-thirties to sixties) weren’t into V-necks, while senior men (60 or older) didn’t really care and millennial guys (yes, straight men too) thought they were cool!
The story of my early life. I accidentally shot down so many flirts cause I didn’t see it as being hit on…
On the flip side, I was recently on a date and another guy in the bar was doing all this and nearly back flips , and it was ridiculous. Why would a man be so obvious checking out a woman who is with another man and clearly into her date? It was distracting and ultimately rude of him to keep at it.
Love it! ;) <3
Haha, I found out that I’m a natural when it comes to flirting with guys, when I was 19.
I just couldn’t stop laughing, while watching the video. Everytime when a guy smiles at me, I smile back, everytime a guy speaks to me I respond. I would bring myself into situations, when a guy did everything that you just pointed, and I responded them without knowing I’m flirting.
Another art of flirting, is flirting in the phone. Usually when you work in a job that requires you to speak all day long to people in the phone, you start joking about stuff, and I found out that it’s flirting too. Apparently my voice turns on guys, and it was very scary for me at first ,now I learned to enjoy that.
My problem was that I couldn’t believe how much power I had, I was terrified. I was afraid guys didn’t want something serious, and preferred saying no to some of them.
Today I’m much more aware, and I’m starting to let go of my fears. It’s nice to feel atractive and it’s fun to flirt.
what is it with men. when it starts off it’s I am single. then they come out with completely out of the blue I am not seeing other people. I am not interested in other people. nor have I been seeing others since we met . but they say only friends with benefits. we do not socialize together at all. but he doesn’t hide it. we work in the same complex. and he stays at least 2/3 nights a week . but I haven’t met his son or mum whom are the most important to him. why what’s happening here their is an age gap of round 10 years . I am older
LOVED this Matthew – I always struggle in knowing when a guy is flirting or “just being nice”. Love the funny way you always portray your example. Great information as well as a great laugh – thank you so much :)
You are so funny!!!! Thank you for the video!! You rock !!
Oh boy… Ive been so clueless! Ha! *smh* I was like “oh no!!! He was flirting with me!”
Great video, acting and music! Go Jameson and Matt!
Love it! Can you make one about co-workers? Basically the exact same as this one, but at work, co-workers.
Your videos crack me up! Dating can be a brutal process. Thank you for bringing some humor for us ladies along the way Matt :)
Matthew you know you have hot arms, and we love to see them, but don´t let your looks be more important than your message. You are devil handsome, dont workout too much.
For many years I regarded all these signs as you say – flirting, but everytime I started to respond in the same way, the guy was going like “there was nothing in there, just normal communication”, and I stopped paying attention to such behaviour for good. So this video is a bit confusing, on one hand, but I like that recommendation of taking small risks without actually saying “I like you too”. Maybe something will change;) Thank you)
Haha! Matthew stop being so cute ;p
I like how you make the video interesting and fun. It seems like men are like little boys who are seeking for attention. And it’s fun to play along with it… Winks! ;)
Oh I can reply. Well here it goes, dam Matthew You’re so Hot, I wish you were my man/boyfriend! Everytime I watch you give your speech lessons about love/men, I get naughty ideas in my head about you-Lol :)