Why does commitment seem so hard right now?
In this week’s video, Matthew sits down with entrepreneur and speaker Anas Bukhash to talk about everything from the addictive pull of dating apps to the unrealistic expectations created by the seemingly endless “buffet” of people from which we can choose a partner.
The conversation also unpacks a better approach to finding love that stops you getting caught in the same trap as everyone else. (This may just change how you approach dating!)
People say sometimes I shrink myself thinking I won’t get a better guy. Partly being 64 years old and a difficult person to love. But there’s someone who shares common spiritual ways of thinking and personal development. Plus I have known bhim for a few years. I don’t know if I should go ahead with him?
„How does this Person make me feel?
Instead of asking myself, how do I feel about this Person…“
Thank you so much for sharing!!
Thinking of why people don’t want to commit….dating is the candy, commitment is agreeing to own and manage the entire candy store. Like the old saying, “Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” This was applied to women having sex with men without marriage. Now it’s applying to everyone who wants all the benefits of commitment without actually committing.
Thanks for posting this video. I think it was really helpful in deepening my understanding of love.
Yea a lot of guys can b dismissive. I know 2 guys who pursued me. One very persistent and won me over when I had no attraction whatsoever w him at first. However he’s more young minded n forward than the other one whose more in tune w feelings n thoughts of thinking things thru. My automatic guarded self push the 1st one away n we don’t text much n haven’t spoken n a month n haven’t seen each other in 2mos. I still miss him n his goofiness. The other one I see at his work n it changed a bit but he still likes me. I’m just focusing on making myself more social n less guarded. It’s very hard n what I’m used to. However I’ve noticed I am attracting positive energy and old guy friends back into my life that were gone for yrs. One after the other keep popping up. I feel its the Universe saying I was liked n loved because I had a positive impact on their lives. That’s why they keep coming back.
Its strange tho, the one I’m thinking about..the 1st guy I became crazy about, Im feeling like mayb it was just the fantasy I was caught up in…I won’t know for sure unless we come together n talk about it.