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He Wants to Approach You – He Just Needs This from You First…

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I remember being in New York in a bar and making eyes with this person for an hour. And as she was walking out, an hour later, she literally looked over and she went [shrugs and waves]. That was enough. Because then I went, “Wait,” and then I started to make my way over. That little moment where she did that, was what meant that we talked.

You know the number of times… Think in your life the number of times you were one hair away from not meeting someone that ended up being in your life. We have people in social environments looking down at their phone instead of up at who’s in the room. That’s what most people do. They go out, they sit down at a table that eliminates their presence from the room.

Guys are the same. Guys are walking around this like they’re James Bond all the time. They walk into a room like this. We’re all being too fucking cool. It might be worth making it a little more obvious you’d like them to do something. Just walking past the guy and smiling when you like him is the difference much of the time between him doing something and doing nothing.

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I followed Matthew’s advice because I’m an extrovert when I’m with my girlfriends, but when I’m with anyone else I’m all shy. And I started talking to people and I just became so much more confident. I had way better dates, way better experiences. I met heaps more people. My life has amped up a million percent. I can’t even explain how much.


My why is I think that I think we’re incredibly lonely. The world is lonely, isn’t it? Life is lonely. The world is lonely. It’s like drinking a coffee in the morning and have nothing to do with all of that energy because you know you want to give it to someone. You know you have so much more to give than what you’re giving right now because you have no object to direct it towards.

Life is just this big video game. The way we play video games is we really explore in the game. We go through different doors, we talk to different people, we go to different areas. We collect gold coins over here, over here. We really explore the world. We play the hell out of the game.

What if your life was a video game and there’s, just in Melbourne tonight alone, there’s just thousands of characters you can talk to in that video game? And all of them has a different story and all of them has something different to teach you or you to teach them? If we started seeing our life like that, like the best video game that was ever created and we’re actually in it, we would live with a whole different intensity.

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6 Replies to “He Wants to Approach You – He Just Needs This from You First…”

  • Here’s a story for you, but first a background story: last year in August I bought your book ‘Get the Guy’. Ever since I’m following the content you’re sharing and I get affirmation about my own thoughts about dating and relationships through your thoughts. Here’s the story: last year, in June I had a wonderful date with a guy, we texted afterwards, but two weeks in texting he sent me text saying that he’s withdrawing from dating in general, because he’s too bus but he finds me a very interesting person. With a little pain in my heart, I sent him a reply saying that I won’t hold him back although I find it such a pity he came to this decision. A week later or so he sent me another text asking if we could still stay in touch, to which I agreed. The year went by and on Christmas Day he sent me a Christmas greeting via text. By that time I was a bit confused about what he wants, because aside from the occasional texting, we didn’t have any contact in person. To get rid of this confusion, I asked him where is this thing between us is going, because I respect and accept his decision that he doesn’t want to date, but he doesn’t seem to be interested in being in eachanother’s lives, which is fine with me, but if he wants to keep the friendship he’ll have to invest in it. He replied saying that I was right(!), and if I want we could meet up in January this year. January became 14 February, we watched a movie at a cinema, he cooked dinner for me, we chatted until 2:00 the night in and ended up kissing a little. He even told me that he really liked my reply to his Christmas greeting text. It’s funny how some people just cannot leave from your life. Tbh I don’t know if this will lead into a relationship, but I have good feelings about him, so who knows. I’ll do my best to keep options open.
    Thanks to the content you share I am learning how to communicate my needs and standards, and also how to be more economic with my investments. So a big-big thank you!

  • In three minutes you summed it up quite eloquently. Reminds me of a phrase I read somewhere: “What you risk reveals what you value. You play. You win. You play. You lose. You play.”

  • Hi Matthew

    Just a couple of days before my holiday to Lanzarote I had watched your video on ‘he wants to approach you – he just needs this from you first’.
    Well an opportunity opened up for me to try out your suggestions.
    As I was walking up from the beach with my friend there were two handsome guys walking behind who were showing some interest in us. I responded by smiling back at them and continued to walk on. We were going in the opposite direction so I turned and waved over to them. The guy who was showing interest in me called over to me asking where I was from and I ended up having a conversation with him. It didn’t go any further from that due to geographical distance but It was my first time ever to flirt and I really enjoyed it.
    Thanks Matthew.

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