It’s so easy to ignore all the warning signs from men.
You like him. He has a good career. You have amazing sexual chemistry. But there are things that you know make him wrong for a relationship:
- His wandering eye…
- His emotional withdrawal…
- His selfish, narcissistic behavior…
If you’ve ever been tempted to stay with a guy despite everything your gut tells you, please watch this video now, before you do anything else today.
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Matthew, your “One Day” bet is the best advice you’ve ever given. And I love that you come from a place of humility and empathy – and not righteousness. Love it and you!
LOL… have loved all your spoofs of FSOGrey!!!! Totally agree its not about the sexual desire that make it a crap/bad story…. the plot is basically the old mills & boons story line where the girl is innocent virgin with yes low self esteem & male rich – normally older emotionally unavailable, obsessive, ridiculously handsome man who somehow with her devotion & completely giving herself away to this man (&don’t mean sex) he somehow miraculously is changed into the man of her dreams.
You are so spot on Matt its scary & so glad a male can see it too ( thanks to the amazing up bringing of the females & males around you!!!!)
And its is still pretty much the basic rom storyline we have had to model off for wayyyyy too long in main media.
Really need more spoofs & better more healthy relationship storyline in tv, film & books cause that’s what we model our lives on girls!!!!
oh crap….I mean “amazing up bringing from the females & males around you”…. lol from a real Aussie
You hit it on the nail Matthew OMG!!! You are absolutely right! I was in a marriage for 25 years hoping he’d change but nevwr did. Finally left him 3yrs ago…best decision I ever made but wish I wouldn’t have waited so long…
You’re so right on. Stay away from the narcissists. They will gut you.
This truly hit home! My ex was a true narcissist and made me feel like everything that was happening was my fault! I caught him checking out women, talking to women, cheating. I finally got out and realized I deserve more! Thank you you helped me realize if
Geez, Matt…I apologize for my harsh words after your 50 Shades video. I’ve been involved, and I use the term loosely, with a real life Christian Grey for 7 years. He is SO smart, funny, ambitious, gorgeous, charismatic and the list goes on. We have such a wonderful time together, great conversation, amazing sex, etc. I really do love him with all my heart. But I really do not think he can give me what I need. We’d go for literally months without talking, but I was always so happy to hear from him that even though I was hurt, I would still go see him. Then he moved last year to start a business, but we still talk and I miss him so much! I’ve tried to date other guys but no one interests me AT ALL. I need to move in a few months and want to make a fresh start and go somewhere totally new. But if we are not meant to be together, I wonder will I ever get over him? Will I ever find someone better that still has all his fantastic qualities?
Cassie I hear you, have been there myself
Yes, I hear you too sister.
Yea that path of change is not the easy one.
One word of caution, the more high value you become, the harder It is to find a match.
Masterful response, Matthew!!! Your clear vision helps us see more clearly. Your words, and the emotion that imbues your words, lead us to greater understanding. Plus a great sense of humor and a magnanimous heart!
Spot on Matthew, love how you put it across, I dated a narcissist and he was a BAD one, learnt the hard way, but I have definitely learnt, funny thing is people throw the term narcissist around so freely, they think if a guy cheats that makes him a narcissist so much more to the mental illness than that.
this video made my tears drop again, coz old memories came in flash again, I’ve been through this “one day” wager, n it was end hurtful, just broken heart on my side
Matthew, u r definitely amazing! My name’s aGneS, from Hong Kong. My bf said I am such a adorable girl that act sometimes like a little girl, jealous n curious^_^ but sometimes act so mature. (It’s all because of u, Matthew ! ) love u ! Love ur coaching sooooooo much .
Matt seems pretty sensual, I can’t imagine he’s vanilla or boring at all behind closed doors, but that’s just me.
I totally agree with you.
Hi! I’ve been enjoying your videos for quite a while now! But there’s something else that I have a problem with. I have this ‘hate’ issue! I don’t like to be around or talk to the people I don’t like. And I don’t know how to get over it. I don’t be downright rude to them, I kind of just listen them and pray hard inside that this conversation ends soon. And seize the opportunity to leave that conversation right when I have it. Sometimes it makes me feel that they might have understood that I don’t like them. And when I’m not around them it makes me feel bad and I wanna be nicer the next time. But whenever I see them again I just can’t help it! Is there a way to make it easier? Or should I just force myself into being ‘nicer’? Who knows if that ever’s gonna happen!
And by the way Matthew, the way you keep the ‘T’s at the end of a words silent almost all the time, is an absolute turn on!
Hi Matthew, a year ago i subscribed for ‘Get the guy’ and it was amazing because at the end of the program I finally realized that I was putting myself in the weak position you describe here. Depending on a guy with wandering eyes (and rest of his body), emotional bunker-person, …a narcist. I came to understand that because I met him very young, coming from a Christian background, having 3 kids with him… got so attached to him and that “family ideal image” that i did not live but it ruled and enslaved me – so did he.
THANKS to your program I learned to let go – while i first came to the program chasing after him :-D
I am so happy now – finally LOVE LIFE ;-)!
Hi Matthew. Thank you so much for this video. Best one
I’ve heard. All your points are spot on and I agree 100% with all you shared. I need to share this video with as many women I know.
Hey Matt you are really funny guy your advices are really great would like to have a men like you with such a knowledge.
You know I feel like always falling into the same trap with the men at the beginning (1-2 months of a realationship) everything is pink the guy often manifests and is cute etc, after a wile it calms down and i get the impression of being forgotten, what shall i do must i put the man under pressure and by the same way taking the risk of losing him or shall i act like everything is okay?
Catherine
Hi Matthew. Thanks for every post and video you share with us.
I can tell, I was one of those people to stay with someone because I have the feeling or hope that maybe it will be a change. But you know and as you say, it’s a process of growth and self-knowledge but more important the awareness and decision. I love what they do. I am a coach too and listening, empowering and accompanying people in their growth is what motivates me to keep improving. Thanks again.
You are SPOT ON!!! Thanks for being so genuinely real! If I could, can I take you home with me? :)
I have been following you since day one. You and your brother Stephen has been my guiding compass to my self esteem. Guess what it works!
I got out of my comfort zone as a deaf lady and went with my hearing friend to a bar. I met this gorgeous guy who looked like Mark Wahlberg. We hit it off. We are learning about each other. I feel good about myself in a long time. I know that I will be able to meet more guys after believing in myself.
Thank you for being REAL. You are right, we cannot change others! We can only change within our selves.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Very interesting and real, as always.
The only thing that surprised me was the music that started getting to the end. Is had to hear Matt. Is too loud.