Many of the women who read this blog are single, but I always like to address those who aren’t as well!
Last week I opened the floor to a lucky reader who was able to ask me any question she liked. Congratulations Lisa! You asked how to keep things in a relationship fun and fresh from the first date all the way through. This is a great topic and one that I know so many women have questions about!
Many people say that if a relationship is right, it should be easy. Though it’s true that if your relationship is too much work it probably isn’t right, it doesn’t mean that a good relationship won’t require effort.
The sad truth is that most people bring their best selves on day one to the stranger, and a much lazier more negative version on day 365 with the person they love.
I often say that attraction is about keeping people off balance; the problem is that when people get into a relationship, they get too stable. On one hand, it is great when you find that person you can build routine with, be comfortable and share your life with. The danger arises when routine overshadows the intensity of the emotions and experiences you have with that person.
Here are 3 ways to make sure routine doesn’t drown your passion!
1) Just because you’ve started Dating doesn’t mean you stop going on Dates!
Never. Stop. Dating.
Though having a comfort-zone and co-existing with your partner is great, you need to keep things fun and interesting. A date doesn’t mean you have to go out and get dolled up every single time; it can be something as simple as changing or creating an atmosphere. If your typical date night is to stay in, order pizza and watch a movie, switch the pizza out for his favorite homemade dish and light some candles rather than using the table lamp. This changes it up just enough to create a special moment out of a typically ordinary one.
2) Special occasions deserve special experiences…
When it comes to birthdays and holidays, many people struggle with what to get their man. You don’t need to break the bank; you just need to invest yourself.
One of the greatest gifts, as well as the most memorable, is the gift of time. The best gift and date ideas take advantage of this. Make a mini day-trip to a place that neither of you have been before, or go learn something new together. Not only will you have spent quality time with your mate, you’ll also have just created a new point of connection and conversation!
3) Make a mental note of things he likes…
Take note of the little things he mentions that he likes, wants to do or turn him on, and build a well that you can draw from.
You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to take charge and book the tickets to see Iron Man 3, simply because you know he wants to see it! Also don’t forget to remind him of ways he can make you happy. No guy will be angry with you for giving him a roadmap!
Question of the day: What can you do to keep a guy in your life ‘off balance’?
Let me know in the comments below!
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