Is there a formula for love?
I’ve often spoken about a formula for attraction, but love is infinitely more complex.
There’s no assurance that simply because we look a certain way or have certain character traits that a person will fall head over heels with us.
Yet folklore and literature tells us stories of spells, potions, and magic words, all of which can make people fall in love at our will.
It’s a common fantasy: we all want the cheat code to win a person’s heart (or at least win them for one night!)
You and I know that love spells are a myth. But making yourself more loveable is not. And knowing what gets men hooked is what makes the difference between the woman who struggles to meet guys and the woman who has men chasing her all the time.
How to make a guy fall in love with you…
Here are 4 things you really need to know if you want to become truly loveable…
Men fall in love when you are unique
If you want to make a guy to fall in love with you, you need unique pairings.
What does this mean? Quite simply, you need to show traits that are not commonly found in one person.
- If you’re usually sweet and nurturing, you need to also show him that you can be strong-willed and dominant in other parts of your life.
- If you’re intellectual, you also need to show him you’re fun-loving and have a taste for adventure.
- If you’re independent, you need to show him that you can also be feminine and admire him too.
When you show unique pairings, you become truly one-of-a-kind in a man’s eyes (which is when he thinks “Holy crap I need to hold onto this woman!”). The secret of how to make a guy fall in love with you is to show him you’re like no-one he’s ever met before.
Try cultivating different parts of your personality so that you don’t get stuck in one kind of mode. And when you’re dating, try to do things that show the various dimensions of your personality. e.g. one date at an art gallery, another having a fun picnic in the park, and another hanging out by the beach.
If you’re sometimes serious, show him you can also be sexual, or that you can be playful and silly at different moments.
Men fall in love when you have self-respect
Attraction is crucial, but attraction + respect is what sends his heart racing.
It’s ok to be likeable, but men truly love women who show they uphold high standards in their life and whom won’t bend their rules just because they like someone.
When a man sees that he has an amazing connection with you but also sees that you expect a certain level of treatment from him, he’ll find it impossible to forget about you anytime soon.
This means not simply going along with everyone else in order to be liked. It also means calling him out when he gets it wrong or when behaves inappropriately. Finally, it’s about choosing to have great people around you and not getting sucked into gossiping and hanging out with people who bring you down.
Men fall in love when women show admiration
This might sound obvious, but men love to feel wanted and adored.
While you don’t want to pander to his ego, just making a guy feel like you look up to him in certain areas is enough to make him crazy about you.
Men don’t want to compete, they just want to feel like they are able to offer you something that no other guy can. And the first step to that is to show him when you admire things about him (and be specific when you do).
You never want to overuse compliments. But when delivered at appropriate moments you’ll make him feel special around you, which is exactly when a guy starts to feel the first tugs on his heartstrings.
Men fall in love when you are vulnerable
Men have a deep nurturing side, and while a helpless woman is a turn off, a woman who can let a man take care of her when she’s vulnerable is deeply attractive.
Vulnerability shows a level of trust, and lets him feel closer to you when you’re both comfortable revealing your inner selves without restraint due to fear of judgment.
What’s more, you need to let him feel it’s ok to be vulnerable around you. That means not judging him when he opens up, or making him feel threatened or like less of a man when he talks about his true feelings. Every guy is looking for the woman who let’s him be his natural, relaxed self around her.
There we have it: four essentials to getting a guy to fall for you.
While it’s not exactly a magic formula for bewitching ANY man, these are the absolutely crucial necessities for a man to feel in love, and ultimately what makes men want to commit in the long-term.