3 Ways To Slow Life Down

Looking back on the last decade of my life, it’s scary how fast it’s happened.

We’re all used to hearing, “if you don’t know how to use it, time will pass you by”, but in this video I want to take you past tired clichés and drill down to a true feeling of gratitude.

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  • Thank you Matt, great video as usual. I look forward to your videos every week. Please don’t ever stop sharing your gift, you are amazing.


  • hi matt, I can’t see Steve’s article related to this video that you mentioned in this video?

    Very interested to see it please :)

  • You’re my favourite. Even though we’ve never met, I still see you as my coach. Thanks for sharing these thoughts today :)

  • Matthew, I’ve been thinking awhile over asking you this and I really hope you
    have any advice for this…
    What should a young girl in early twenties do if she meets the love of her life,
    literally the most amazing guy and wants to be with them but inside she has always wanted to travel the world, get lost in the unknown, grow from different experiences and see different countries and amazing nature and everything the world has to offer… But she also knows that she could only experience the world like that alone- or this is how she would truly learn and grow…
    But she has also grown a lot with the guy she is with and wants to be with him…
    She also knows that the guy is more rational and wants to travel maybe in few years when enough money is gathered, where as she wants to do it now.. She is a dreamer, a risker and someone who is impatient and makes her dreams reality as fast as possible .. There is an urgency.. Where as the guy hasn’t got the urgency- it’s more like rationality..
    What do you do when you finally have the relationship you want but you also want to travel the world… Love vs dreams? How could she have it both?
    I’ve done a lot of thinking and I can’t come to an answer…
    All I know is that I’ve always been the kind of person who just does something when they want to.. But relationship is something more, it’s compromise and what two people want..
    After seeing that phase video and when you asked :what seems like a good idea to do is this current phase.. All I could think is travel…
    Please, any help would be well appreciated!
    Love you Matthew!

    Your teachings are what got me the love of my life in first place and I’ve done a bit of travelling before I met him when I grew so much from the experiences and places and people I met but was earning for that someone special.

    1. Dear Kerly,

      10 years ago I was in the same phase as you.Full of passion and wanted to travel,exited to experience life and at the same time i have met my partner.I had amazing time with him,married but deep down i always missed to experience life alone and travel the world.So now we separated and its been a wonderful journey again.Living alone,travel and discover myself. Do I regret anything? Should I have choosen to travel at 20 and miss experiencing a great relationship?No.Whatever your choice will be it will be the best for you. just listen to your intuition and emotions will show you the right path.Dont listen to anybody. Follow what feels right for you. Good luck☺

    2. Kerly, you know yourself better than anyone. But I would travel and see if the guy is still there at return, or maybe after a couple of years, in a more attractive (mature but less scared) form. Not saying I would have chosen travel when I was your age, and in your shoes (I’m 33 now). Who knows, you might even find another dreamer out there. You have one life and your age is the best for travel. Later comes carrier perhaps etc. Don’t miss out. I am very glad I lived abroad in total for about a year and a half before starting studying at a university. But then again, my choice was a no choice really, I didn’t have your (positive) dilema. Have fun!

    3. Hi Kerly! Thanks for sharing this beautifully authentic experience you’re currently in. I am in my 20’s and feel very similarly to you as far as the desire to travel AND have the partner of my deepest soul’s desire. It seems to me that right now, you have an “either or” mindset about your scenario, when it COULD be possible to have both. What would it take for you to be with your love AND travel on your own? How could you create an experience for yourself where you can take solo trips and still be with your love? What ELSE is possible that you haven’t seen yet? Are you willing to see all the possibilities? If not or if so, just say “I am willing to see the truth, I am willing to see what is possible…” and also your inner guidance to show you. A question I have been playing with lately is ” in 10 years, would I regret not doing or will I have wished I did ______ .” Marie Forleo shared this question in a video she once posted and I really loved it. Of course, with love, all things are a bit different and the intensity is a bit higher, but trust you will be able to create whatever you need. What does your gut say? Sending you love and clarity and wishes for the most wonderful parting of the seas to the path that will bring the most growth and joy. Love, Lianda

  • I appreciate this video today! It made me cry! Lol!
    Not seen the film yet but sounds a very beautiful story and I love learning from your content as always keep it up

    muchas Gracias matt! xx

  • Great video Matt

    This is something that I’ve been thinking about a lot over the last few days. I reached the age of 43 a couple of weeks ago and realized that I have spent the last decade trying to recover from a string of bad relationships resulting in a lack of self esteem and confidence. I feel that I have been lurching from one crisis to the next and haven’t noticed that life has literally gone by me in a flash whilst I have wasted endless hours preoccupied with worry.

    I have a job that allows me little free time which means I also have little time to cultivate existing friendships and time or to form new ones. Also it has left me closed off from developing a new relationship……but this is where change begins.

    I have been offered a place to study Applied Arts at university this Autumn and I am looking for a job that gives me the spare time that I so desire to pursue the things I and everyone else deserves from life, health, happiness, passion and love. I no longer want miss out on my life because I’m busy doing other things and your video punctuated that brilliantly.

    I haven’t yet seen the film, but I will and I am sure that I will feel the same as you about what I just witnessed but if it is further proof that life needs to be enjoyed in the moment then I will be forever grateful that I could be part of it.

    All the best.

    Take care

    Jo x

  • Going to for a exploring career’s I like I want to be a real estates agent so going to classes for it , but not wasting time wonder i want to be more proactive and really take responsibility for my destiny

  • Thanks for this video Matt. Lovely Birthday present! I have never been able to shake the regret of wasted years… and at 58 years young today that’s a lot of years.

    I plan to watch The Kid today to remind myself it’s never too late to be who you should have been, enjoy the cake that my son has made me and playfully threaten to damage my kids as they make old woman jokes all day. Good thing I am secure in their love and them in mine!! Bystanders however look horrified LOL

    This phase of my life does have some great things… I gave up the word “should” many years ago, I don’t need to win arguments, don’t need to be perfect, don’t need to compare myself to others, can easily admit my mistakes, know that I am the only person who regulates my self esteem, have the confidence to say when a boundary has been crossed and have learned to appreciate myself.

    So maybe the last 58 years haven’t been wasted after all????

    Thanks Matt

  • Hey matt, that was a beautiful and really deep thought.i ve felt Very few people appreciate the day they have…today…and what they have now… appreciating the little things is a habit….Its something that you ll have to install in you, but once installed..it changes even the way you think n feel about life. Thats what happened to me.. THE Secret and The MAGIC, by Rhonda are the books that helped me with this transformation. After a long time, i felt you really did a much much meaningful vedio;) Good job buddy :)

  • Matt,

    While I have not seen the film, your message has great meaning for me. I too, sometimes wonder where time has gone, but did not stop to smell the “roses” along the way. Your videos and tips and thoughts are incredible and help me tremendously. You are wise beyond your years and I truly appreciate that you share yourself with the world!! I will try to implement these tips and “slow” life down for me to appreciate the time or phase I am currently in before I too am looking back on this one. I look forward to enjoying my life, now!!

  • Thanks for this video, as well as for the many others you’ve made :).
    You really have a way of saying this that put my way of thinking into perspective.

    I am going to do a “What made this day count” list.

    Thank you for helping me being positive and being a better person to myself, and to rest of the people i deal with :D

  • Hi there Matt,

    Just saw Boyhood last week with my 16 year old son. There were many parallels for both of us being that I’ve been raising him on my own since he was 5, have had a few relationships that went south and certainly had some damaging effects on both of us, we moved to new communities and had to start over a few times and he had to start 3 new schools in the last 11 years. We then lost my 2nd husband to cancer a few months back.

    Together, as a team we have navigated through what many would see as a less than perfect life. Some even pity us for all the challenges we’ve endured.

    But our take away on the movie was that the film certainly demonstrated the passing of time beautifully which is a good reminder that life does in deed march along. It also showed how a young boy grows up and becomes a man, which is a majestic feat that brings tears to my eyes when I now see my son with a beard! The film also showed a woman finding her way to create a life for herself and children and did the best she could with what she had to work with, inspiring other’s along the way. What more could a person do? It was beautiful.

    I feel that the movie was remiss to not show a deeper connection and bond between the siblings and also with the mother. The experiences that my son and I have gone through together as a team have connected us like no other parent-child relationship that my son or I have experienced. They could have had more intense exchanges between them – watch the trailer for the film Mommy (French Film) and you will see what I mean.

    Don’t be sad Matt. From where I’m sitting you are living an extraordinary life, taking every morsel and gobbling it up, finding the beauty in the experience through gratitude, growing up to be an amazing man and inspiring others along the way!

  • You’re a very special person. Your depth, insights and perspective are incredibly special and generous. Don’t stop doing what you do! X

  • Hi Matthew,

    Loved your video. I was very moved ;(.

    It’s amazing how much we have a similar way of seeing life.

    I am always asking myself these types of question about the meaning of life and how to appreciate the beautiful moments.

    What I appreciate about you and the reason why I keep watching your videos is that you’re not afraid to show your sensitivity.

    I always feel more connected with people who are like this.

    I don’t feel confortable with people who view sensitivity as a weekness.

    You talk about this subject in another video and I really liked it as well.

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