How To Get the Guy Podcast

Most people spend years trying to change their lives by making dramatic, big moves. Yet even after those big moves, they find themselves facing the same frustrations, the same fears, and the same emotional patterns they thought they had left behind. Why does this happen? Well, there's something we all do that quietly keeps us trapped in the same experience of life, even when everything around us changes. Over the last 18 years of coaching, I've become skeptical of any advice that promises instant transformation. Real change is rarely dramatic and overnight. In fact, it's often so subtle that most

Red flags get all the attention in dating—but what about the warning signs that aren't dealbreakers? In this episode, Matthew and Stephen break down the difference between red flags and "amber lights" (or yellow flags), and why knowing the difference can save you from making a costly mistake. Some warning signs reveal a serious compatibility issue that shouldn't be ignored. Others may point to challenges that, when handled well, can actually strengthen a relationship. Join Matthew and Stephen as they put common dating scenarios to the test and explore how to tell the difference between a relationship that's worth investing

Have you ever wondered if you ended a relationship too soon? In this week’s episode, I share the story of a woman who found herself trapped in a cycle that many of us know all too well. After a breakup, she couldn't shake the feeling that she might be walking away from something good. So when the door cracked open again, she stepped right back through it. What happened next revealed a pattern I’ve seen repeatedly over two decades of coaching: a subtle dynamic that keeps people stuck in relationships long after they’ve stopped feeling truly fulfilled. The challenge is

Sometimes attraction fades not because there wasn’t chemistry… but because we accidentally kill the tension too early. In this episode, Matthew shares 3 common mistakes that can quietly hurt desire in dating and relationships—and how to avoid them before a connection fizzles out. These are subtle patterns that are easy to miss in the moment, but once you see them, you’ll start spotting them everywhere. If you’ve ever wondered why someone seemed interested at first and then slowly pulled away, this episode will help you understand what may have changed. --- ►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter

Modern dating leads to burnout for a lot of people, especially those who use the apps. In my brand new video, I break down why so many people feel burnt out, disillusioned, and emotionally drained by today’s dating culture. From endless swiping to getting ghosted to dating defensively out of fear of rejection, it's tough out there. And unfortunately, many people are no longer dating to find connection, but simply trying to avoid getting hurt. I explore why burnout has become so common, how heartbreak quietly follows people back into the dating pool, and the subtle ways modern dating trains us

In this episode, Matthew and Stephen Hussey break down the real reasons this happens in dating and relationships—from emotional unavailability and low self-worth to the ways we may unintentionally push someone away ourselves. They talk about: Why some people lose interest once they feel they’ve “won” you Why emotionally unavailable people struggle with closeness How overinvesting too early can change the dynamic And how to tell the difference between someone pulling away because of them… or because of unhealthy patterns in the relationship If you’ve ever felt confused, rejected, or anxious when someone suddenly became distant, this episode will help