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10 Facts About The First Date You Probably Didn’t Know

For todays article I’m going to take a back-seat in dishing out the dating advice, as I’ve been scouring the internet for facts, figures and statistics about first dates.

I’m going to do my best to remain completely impartial for now as I’d really love to hear your thoughts, reactions and feedback on some of this research, so make sure you leave a comment letting me know.

Without further a do, here are the cold, hard facts!

  • 71% of people surveyed at said they believe in love at first site.
  • Only 24% of people (also surveyed at said that they trust someone they’re out on a first date with!
  • A survey of 38,912 singles conducted by It’s Just Lunch found that the chances of a second date happening when a guy hasn’t got in touch in the first 24 hours is as low as 1 in 8.
  • “8 out of 10 women think that the first kiss will tell them everything they need to know about a relationship” – Hitch (okay, this one you may have heard before!)
  • 43% of singles have Googled someone on the internet before a first date.
  • Had a first date set up by a friend? There is only a 17% chance of a second.
  • “Men will decide within 15 minutes of a date whether a second date is on the cards. Women are a little more patient, often taking up to 1 hour to assess any potential chemistry.” – Matt Fuller
  • 42% of people say that they’ve had a one night stand and regretted it the next day.
  • The number one conversation killer on a first date is past relationships (49%), with dieting or body image coming in at number two.
  • “51% percent of single people surveyed said that flattery is the best way to attract someone. According to Are You Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships? 25% also say to use touching as a way to flirt is very effective, and a surprising 23% say that the best way to let someone know you’re interested in them is the old schoolyard method of passing word through a friend.” – Will Irvin

So there you have it. There’s a few things here I wouldn’t necessarily agree with, others that could just well be spot on, and a handful that are downright scary!

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3 Essential First Date Tips For Women

Some people are much more confident on first dates than others.

Some people are fine on dates but don’t get any because they’re not proactive enough when meeting men and so rarely go on any. But if you’re reading this, I’m going to assume that you’ve got one lined up in the next few days and that you’re ready to mop up all my first date tips for women

1. Do Something With An External Focus

This is a big one. So many people decide that going for dinner and drinks for the first date is the ‘safest’ and best option… How wrong they are!

Dinner is perhaps my least favourite first date idea of all. Why? Because it’s such a high pressure environment. You’re sat next to a guy you barely know for at least 90 minutes (if not more!) eating (which is hardly the most gracious thing in the world) and if there is the slightest lull in conversation, it immediately becomes incredibly awkward between you both. Sounds like the perfect thing for a first date right?

I often think that people convince themselves that they’re terrible at dates, when in reality they just set themselves up for it with bad, conventional ideas. Just because that’s all anyone else ever does, doesn’t mean you have to do it too.

– So what can we do instead Matt?

There are so many things you can choose to do which have an ‘external focus’. What I mean by this is doing something where the attention is away the two of you. This could be going to an art gallery, the zoo, or even ten pin bowling.

Why is this so much better? Firstly, as you’re actually out doing something, you’re going to find far more to talk about. And secondly, it’s far more relaxed and casual so you can quite easily wander off for a moment or two to look at something.

2. Set The Right Tone For The Date

They say first impressions dictate everything, and when on a date this couldn’t be truer. The first few minutes are crucial to get right, and your aim for them should be to break the touch barrier, get into an interesting conversation and start flirting with each other.

If you suffer from the ‘gauche greeting’ on first dates, don’t worry; you’re not alone. It seems these days that everyone has a different way of greeting each other, and this can create a great sense of hesitance and reluctancy to do anything.

I’m sure you experienced thinking like this before…

– Do we hug, shall I kiss him on the cheek, kiss him on both cheeks, shake his hand or just stand here like a melon!? What should you do to greet a guy?

This might seem like quite a trivial point to pick on for the more tactile reader, but it’s vital to get right. Small details like this really do predetermine the tone of the date. My advice would be to use this as an opportunity to immediately break the touch barrier and confidently greet him by kissing him on either cheek. This immediately demonstrates a great confidence and allows you to be a lot more flirty with each other right from the off.

Getting the conversation onto something interesting shouldn’t be too difficult when following step one; you’ll be talking about either monkeys or Monet. But if you ignore step one and find yourself detained to the dinner table talking about napkins, you can’t say I didn’t warn you!

3. Plan The Second Date On The First

This rule isn’t actually confined to first dates; it applies to pretty much every interaction you have with a guy you hope to see again.

Why is it that so many women go on fantastic dates with guys; they get on amazingly well together, they laugh, they joke, they flirt, he even walks her home… and they never hear from him again?! What’s going on?

This happens all too often, and perhaps the most important of first date tips for women that I will tell you is to arrange a second meeting whilst on the first. Typically people end a date by saying something along the lines of, “this was fun, we should do it again sometime.” And from experience I can tell you that this is only going to end in uncertainty and two weeks of staring at your phone, waiting for him to call.

It’s an easy enough problem to resolve. When you’re talking to a guy and something is mentioned that could be a potential date idea, for example…

“I haven’t been to the zoo since primary school”

– Use these it to your advantage and plan the next one. By doing this, you solidify the idea in both his mind and your own, so you’re far more likely to actually do it. The more specific you can be with the logistical detail, the better.

Doing this also means that when you haven’t heard from a guy for a few days, it allows you to follow up with a more casual text like “Don’t let me down, I’ve been looking forward to seeing the monkeys!” rather than just calling out of the blue to see what’s happening.

So there you have it, my 3 essential first date tips for women! Hope you enjoyed the article, and if you’ve got any comments, questions or feedback, do let me know :)

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3 Dating Rules For Women That Must Be Obeyed At All Times

Here are our three most important dating rules for women. These three rules aim to guide you on the most important aspects of dating and steer you away from the common pitfalls that occur in the world of dating.

1. Finding a balance between insecure and arrogant on your first date

First dates are as a given nerve wrecking. And nerves can do one of two things to women. Bring all their insecurities to the surface and spend the date being self conscious and putting themselves down or try and hide the nerves by pretending to be the worlds most sexy and confident woman and coming across as an arrogant dominatrix. Both of which are equally unattractive to men.

Before your date think about the things you have achieved in life, what your interested in and what you want to gain in the future. This will not only distracted you from panicking about your date but give you a confidence boost and something to talk to your date about.

Men are attracted to women who are self assured and confident in what they want. But don’t be so determined to prove your an independent woman that you come across as aggressive. Everyone has flaws and men want to feel that sometimes they can look after you, that you are not so sure of yourself that your verging on taking on the role of dominatrix!

2. Remember that dates are supposed to be fun!

During your dates, women can often make the mistake of trying to hard to impress a guy and forgetting to relax and have fun. Men want a girl that they can laugh with and enjoy themselves, if you don’t relax then neither will he and he may get the impression that you take yourself too seriously.

Show him that you are able to laugh at yourself. If he playfully makes fun of you don’t get defensive, laugh and give him as good as you got.

While trying to flirt or be sexy, women can come across as being too intense. Don’t be afraid to be silly with him. Don’t concentrate so hard on being attractive that you wont crack a stupid joke or pull a funny face. A guy will love seeing this side of you and will find your ability to let go and enjoy yourself very attractive.

3. Keep up the excitement past the fifth date

It is of course natural and acceptable to become comfortable with your boyfriend but when comfortable turns into lazy, the relationship can start to lose its spark as dates start to be monotonous and you both stop making the effort to do something special.

Regardless to how comfortable you feel with each other and whether or not he has now seen you first thing in the morning without your make up this does not mean you should stop trying to impress him completely. Its important to still make an effort appearance wise to show him your still the girl he first started dating and to show you care.

Laziness doesn’t just apply to your appearance but to the way you interact with your partner. If you find your dates are consisting more and more of takeaways and TV, shake things up and inject the fun and romance back in your relationship. I find this one of the most important dating rules for woman as getting lazy in your dating relationship is such a common mistake.

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