How To Get the Guy Podcast

It always surprises me how often a potentially great relationship is cut short because of avoidable mistakes and insecure behaviors that we haven’t learned to manage.   “But doesn’t love solve everything?”   Well, not exactly.   What often happens is that these toxic patterns slowly undermine every chance at love we find (or at least make the search much harder than it needs to be).   In this week’s Rewind episode, I want to share the three most common behaviors that can scare someone off before they have a chance to truly fall for you.   Avoid these, and

How do you stop obsessing over someone you’ve recently started dating? When someone seems to tick all our boxes, it can be hard to NOT become flooded with thoughts of a possible future together. We anxiously wait for their text. We put them on a pedestal . . . and as a result, potentially push them away. In this week’s episode, I share 5 things you can do to stop falling for someone too quickly. By following these steps, you’ll be able to keep your value and actually enjoy dating instead of getting stuck in anxiety. ►► Ask Matthew AI

Over my career, I’ve had so many people ask me how to get someone to actually call them. We seem to live on our phones these days, and yet, it feels like no one wants to pick them up and actually have a conversation. We're all good with texting, posting on social media, or sending messages, but when it comes to hearing someone’s voice? Well, that seems like too much to ask. Or is it? I've seen people make this way more complicated than it needs to be, so let’s simplify things. If you're tired of texting endlessly and want

Today it's my pleasure to sit down with the excellent Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman), author of the new book "Meditation for Mortals", which I've found myself recommending to all my friends and family as his work has hugely influential on me in recent years. We sit down to discuss: - Why "settling" in relationships is necessary - How to find your Life Task - How to get over perfectionism - The power of intuition vs. reason - Being more present in your life + acceptance - Giving up on the illusion of "arriving" - How to get through difficult things, anxiety,

THIS is one of the top reasons why a breakup can feel so raw . . .   You may have only recently let your guard down and shown your real feelings, only to have the other person end things. This can feel especially painful because it’s like they’ve rejected you for who you truly are at your core.   But it doesn’t have to feel that way, because it’s not actually true. And in today’s new episode, I explore 5 different mindsets that can ease heartbreak and restore confidence so you can find the right person faster. ►► Ask

When you’re in love and someone decides to end the relationship, it’s natural for your brain to go into "panic mode." Why are they doing this? How can I be the person they want? What can I say to win them back? If you allow these swirling thoughts to take over, you’ll likely end up pushing them further and further away. Now, I’m not here to tell you whether or not you should give things another try with your ex. There are many factors to consider, which we can talk about another time. But what I do know is that