How To Get the Guy Podcast

In today’s Rewind episode, I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . . But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? In this episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the

Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you’re in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last. In this episode: Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last. The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early. How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a pattern of falling for the wrong people, you’re not alone—but that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes. In this video, I’ll show you how to rewire the way you experience attraction. In it, I share five specific shifts that will help you break free from the patterns sabotaging your love life. From micro-dosing on emotionally unavailable exes to losing yourself in someone who isn’t ready, we’re getting honest about the real cost of staying in cycles that erode our confidence and waste our time.  --- ►► Want Your #

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room? When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely different realities, and you’d do anything to get some clarity. You might even ask yourself: “Should I try

In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves. They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attraction. Topics include: Why the fear of being "too much" makes us play small in dating and friendships The truth

Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can’t meet them halfway? In this week’s video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we’ll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love. If you’ve ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of safe ones, this video is for you. Learn how to break the patterns that keep you tethered to the wrong