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The Best Way To Get Over A Guy That You’ve Become Fixated On…

The Best Way To Get Over A Guy That You’ve Become Fixated On…

The biggest threat to you being a high-value woman is the one guy in your life who isn’t treating you right.

I get so many emails from women that have one guy who’s not responding the way they want. He’s not calling, he’s not getting back when he says he will, and soon they begin to realise that he doesn’t want to be with them. A harsh reality to face up to at times, but needless to say, they become fixated.

In this moment, when this happens to someone, it doesn’t matter how great they are, how much they have going on in their life, how intelligent or how successful they might be – their confidence is going to be affected.

If right now you find yourself in similar circumstances, I want to provide a remedy…


Having choice with men. You need to know that there are options out there other than this one guy. The only way to do this, and to get over this fixation, is to go out and create more options for yourself.

We have two options in life, we can either WAIT or we can CREATE. To get over a fixation, you need to become someone who says to themselves, “I’m going to be a Creator.”

The more fixated you are, the more choices you need – the more you need to go out, meet new people, and break out of your comfort zone.

Adopt a mindset of being someone who is willing to try things that feel uncomfortable, to try on new personality traits for size, and to shake things up with your day-to-day rhythm.

The temptation will always be to quit, to surrender, and to wonder about this guy, but the only feeling that this temptation will lead you is to pain.

The more we wait, the more focused we become on the guy, the more pain we feel. And so the spiral continues…

I hope that this helps in shaking yourself out of it, and to get back out there and meeting more men.


The upcoming Get The Guy book (January 31st, Transworld) is an amazing next step for doing this. The book is filled with practical examples of proactive approaches for getting back out there and doing things differently.

But right now I’m going to say something that’s a little bit strange… If you’re thinking of pre-ordering the book, don’t do it yet.

If you already have, don’t worry, you’re still going to be involved in everything I have to say, but if you haven’t pre-ordered, don’t do it right now.


This Thursday the book comes out. When it does, to celebrate on launch day, I’m going to be doing something that is truly crazy, and that I know will cause jaws to drop.

I’m not going to say anymore just yet… You can see what happens on the 31st.

Suffice it to say, I’m potentially more excited about this than anything we’ve ever done before (and there’s been a lot to be excited about!). This is a big deal.

Watch your inbox on Thursday, I’ll send you an email then to let you know exactly what’s happening.

I’ll see you then!