Last year I found myself on camera for a TV show – on one of the biggest stages I’d ever been on – in front of a live studio audience…
This clip is going to ‘inoculate’ you for life and have you ready should anyone ever try to embarrass you in front of others.
As a compliment to this video, get the guide that everyone’s been going crazy about…
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Yes to more vids like this! Needing these skills with guys often means we need them generally. Win-win.
I’d love the chance to have a little camera on Matt as he mingles in a room of strangers. As I get older, opportunities have come up to go out (not to a club but more like a house party)…but no one to go with! I pass up some great things because I’m not sure how to navigate strangers who are already grouped up in convos. I don’t want to be a weirdo who butts in but surely Matt has experience with this? I’m quite certain he could do this with his eyes closed! :) I’d love to see something like that.
This was amazing! Thank you! I’m going to talk with my boss this week and this is incredibly helpful, especially since she is someone who is always on the attack. I’m almost excited now to see how it will play out.
Thank you!
Hope it helps Lisa – thanks for the kind comments on Matt’s new stuff.
Steve x
Good luck Lisa.
I hope it plays out good for you :)
Yes, I want more, please!!!! This is so helpful! Thank you, Matt!
Absolutely Matt, thank you so much for sharing this. I recently blew an internal interview for a promotion to an open position at my company, and can really see where I can use this. I was able to come back and make a good case for me getting the promotion, but the fact that the work I’ve already done wasn’t enough, combined with other factors, made me see that it really is time for me to move on. When I was given the news that the position was given to an outside person with less experience than me, and yet the reason for choosing her over me was that I didn’t have enough experience, I actually looked back at that conversation today feeling a bit satisfied that I had done all the things you showed in this video. That’s not to say I’ve mastered it by any means – obviously I still could have done better in the interview and in many other situations. But now I can point to this time with confidence and say, “this is how I need to handle these things, and I know I can since I have before.” Often even when I get something right, I don’t realize it or remember it without someone like you showing the value of that sort of response. Thank you so much Matt! This was awesome!
good job Matt! Keep up the good work in helping us navigate thru human behaviors and dating!
Matthew,
Thank you for this video. I am happily married so I don’t watch your blurbs to “find the guy.” I do find bits of useful information to improve my life overall in each one of your posts. Thanks again!
Julia
Cool. I’ll pass your thanks to Matt.
All best Julia!
Steve x
Great way to demonstrate how to deal with people who I consider as verbally aggressive – a verbal attack instead of a slap – towards you personally as they do not have a valid argument to debate with.
Well done more of this kind of this demo would be great.
I must add this though she had her hackles up before you said a thing by the look on her face, she obviously enjoys gunning for a fight…but she got better than that a rationale explanation of what she does creates angst in relationships.
Matt bobbed and weaved like a pro in this interaction – I never get tired of watching him nail it at the end :)
Steve x
Wow ! Matthew you are amazing, young, talented and wise person! Thank you for sharing this video with us, it was definitely very helpful! Please keep posting similar videos! Thank you!!!
Regards
Plammy
Really pleased you enjoyed Matt’s stuff this week Plamena!
Steve x
Hey Plammy,
Glad this stuff is helpful. And yes, Matt is a pretty damn impressive package. Kudos to him for taking his material in this amazing direction.
Steve x
Hi Matt,
Love, love, love- bring it on! So applicable in all aspects of daily living…
I am really learning a lot.
Love the play by play format. Your willingness to expose your own experiences just add credibility to your efficacy.
Perhaps footage in more domestic situations would be awesome?! Parties, clubs/pubs/bars, online dates, speed dating, gym, grocery store. Just food for thought. :)
Lol Maybe we can just get a permanent Matt-Cam to follow Matt around all day as he buys groceries and works out. I’ll see if Jameson is free to get on it ;)
Love it you ask? It was the life saving information that was needed for a tough and highly emotional family situation that has required me to remain calm in the face of false accusation. I will make a plan and write a list. Thank you.
Awesome Lyndee. I’m just jumping in to respond to some comments while Matt is at a seminar today. Thrilled to hear this stuff is benefiting you.
All best,
Steve x
Steve, it is so cool to see the interplay between you and your brother :)
wish I had that kind of relationship with my siblings.
This is very powerful and beneficial stuff. I appreciate that you’ve started to incorporate lessons on developing general communication and people skills. I think your insights on these topics are really valuable as well as *extremely* applicable. Putting energy into being a good communicator, and learning how to “hold court” as you say, naturally increases social capital which I think directly impacts how successful our relationships are, be they romantic or otherwise. More, please!
Love the term “social capital” – that’s exactly what these skills are building. You’re right – all relationships benefit from better and more effective communication.
Thanks M,
Steve x
Amazing!!!!
Yes, Matt, would definitely love to see more content like this on just general human relationship and communication issues. Thanks so much for sharing this!
I’m loving this new direction! It’s got more depth, more substance, than the ‘you and your relationship with a man’ tit bits. This is getting to the heart of our shortcomings and where we need to start making improvements. Keep going! (High 5 Stephen)
Hi Matt!
Love this video! When you share techniques like this I feel empowered !
Knowing what to do in difficult situations helps me feel much more relaxed and secure in myself which leads to me feeling/acting/being a more confident woman. It usually scares the hell out of me when things suddenly escalate and become extremely tense. When scenarios like this arise I mostly feel panicky and I’m not sure what to do exactly. Now I’ll be able to cope in a healthier, more productive manner. What a relief lol! This is something I can use with people in every area in my life whenever things get a little heated. Breaking things down in a step by step format helps becoming a better and more well rounded person (who can handle conflict) not feel so intimidating. Thanks for all the awesome, applicable advice! Keep it coming!
Hi,
I never wrote a comment , But this subject matter so much to me.
I always had a problem with that I choose not to respond because I might say something hurtful but at same time others really do hurt me.
Sometimes from my family too.
Please Matt share with us some good book you’v read or creat a programm about that I well happily pay money for.
AND YES WE WANT MORE OF IT
I’ll definitely talk to Matt about recommending some of his favourite books on this – I know he’s always loved classics like Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends and Influence People.
Hope we can give you more in the coming videos/blogs!
Thanks Bdour,
Steve x
Love love love this video! More videos like this on human dynamics would be greatly appreciated! So interesting and insightful!
I’m sure Matt will keep them coming now the response has been so incredible! Cheers Marissa x
Hi Matt,
I think all of your YouTube videos are brilliant and helpful. Again this is the kind of information that one must retain! I love that this can be applied to anyone at any point in their life. As an 18 year old this video, and many others that you have done, allow me to feel more prepared for situations that I may have to deal with in the near future. More like this please!
Thanks again!
I am not intending to be rude but just honest here. I am a huge Matt fan. Love all of your videos Matt. Lately though, I am not a fan of the integration of your brother into your work. I do not have trust in him for advice as I do you. I feel like you are lately trying to shove your brother down my throat by promoting him in your recent emails and blogs etc. I feel you are trying to help his career out as a good brother would but I feel it can, IMO, be working against you.
As I don’t know your brother, I am not interested in what he has to say. I am your fan Matt not his. It’s like Oprah trying to bring Gaile into her show. Who cares about Gaile? She is not cool by association. I prefer to only follow you, not your brother. This integration of him is beginning to turn me off to your blogs. I really don’t care what your bro has to say. I subscribe to your emails for you and am getting a sour taste in my mouth when I see it’s an email promoting your brother. This is just my honest feedback. You are one of a kind Matt and your brother is not you.
Your loyal and devoted fan. :)
I also feel its weird your bro is responding to comments directed to you Matt. I have not seen any comments here directed to Stephen. If I posted a comment or question to you, I would not appreciate your bro answering it for you. If I wanted his advice I would have asked him. Again, just my honest feedback.
JJ,
I just got back to my house in LA having been on the road for live seminars in NYC and Chicago over the weekend, which was the reason I asked Steve to spend all day commenting and responding to people in my absence. I thought it would be great to thank everyone who took the time to leave a comment by having Steve here acknowledging them rather than me get back to everyone 48 hours late.
My brother has been a huge asset to the site since he started, and the comments on his articles, and the evidence of people coming up to me in seminars suggests that people feel really grateful to have even more free content on the site than they were getting before. It used to be only one video a week from me, now people get a video AND an article. It takes away nothing, and adds another valuable voice. His work is exceptional and I would be proud to promote it anywhere, anytime. Anyone who reads the quality of his writing knows that to think he is there on anything but merit is ignorance. Far from doing him the favour, he is doing ME the favour by selling me his services far cheaper than I would otherwise get them. I could easily charge for what he does but I don’t, because I always want to give away as much as possible to you guys.
I appreciate your support of me, and welcome your presence here in the future. But if this is going to continue to bother you so much you may want to find someone else like me who gives you their voice and their voice only, because there’s one thing I can guarantee: I’m only going to be giving you more of Steven.
Matthew x
P.S. You are right, my brother is not me, he is his own person, and brings something completely different and unique of his own to the table. I didn’t bring him on to compare him with me, but to give you something new that WASN’T me! : )
100% agree Matt. We are super grateful to you and your brother for the free content you share with us. What a generous gift from both of you. And undoubtedly, your brother is an incredible writer with as much level-headedness and good advice as yourself. I’m a little lazier when it comes to reading so it’s easier to watch your videos than read his stuff but when I do get the time, I always love what he has to say.
The thing is Matt… 99% of the women on here are completely and utterly in love with you – face it! Hahaha. So they don’t want anyone messing with “their Matt”, you know what I mean? But it’s all good! Just keep doing what you’re doing. And thank you to both of you again :)
I remember watching this episode and the tight feeling that came over me when she questioned you, I was holding my breath wondering how you would respond. And your response was brilliant! It was one of the top few moments that made take you seriously and what made you stand out from the other coaches in my mind.
Thank you Matt and Stephen for sharing your “secrets” and giving us the tools to become the individuals we are designed to be. Your transparency is refreshing!