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I decided to have some fun this week and read out your (often hilarious) responses to last week’s video on the “MPI Guy.”

But hearing so many passionate responses made me wonder: Why do so many women waste so much time with terrible guys like this, especially when he puts in such a poor level of effort?

Well, I’ll show you.

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75 Replies to “Do THIS To Get To Mr. Right 6x Faster”

  • You’re that teacher whose section I have to switch out of because I not good at paying attention to the matter of the subject.

  • That was exactly what I needed to hear because that is exactly what he does. There is key element that is there but it is all that remains and yet I think about him anyway. Pathetic but I’ll get over it. You guys are awesome to watch. Always enjoyable but I think Brittany Murphy didn’t do much writing anymore and Pamela Anderson is to busy. Brady l best and thank you

  • Glad you did a follow up. I am doing as you suggested, I walked away a long time ago with the reality he could offer me nothing within just a few months, but the chemistry that still holds strong is a challenge to get past. I date actively knowing it is the one way to get past him, but so far no chemistry can compare. It’s been over 2 yrs. I feel stuck & I know better. Unfortunately, this rooted from a high school crush from more than 30 yrs back. I would never take a step back, but I fear this one will never go away. Can people have a chemistry so strong it connects them for what seems an eternity?

    1. Think Gone With the Wind- Scarlet moons over Ashley cos she can’t have him. When he’s free, she realises he’s really a drip. That’s what happened to me- idealised a guy (who’d dumped me) and ignored the reality. Didn’t give new men a proper chance as a result.
      If only Matthew had been around then to tell me: if he ain’t with you now, he’s NOT your dream guy.

    2. Hey Laurel,

      I know how it feels but you gotta just take that guy and the chemistry off the pedestal you put him on. I had insane chemistry with my ex who was Mr On/off guy (another version of MPI), he still talks about it now and how the chemistry with his new gf is not the same BUT I have to move on. Drawing comparisons between the new dates and our exes just keeps us stuck in the past. Chemistry without a good relationship is just chemistry and is pretty useless on its own. You will get over him but give the new guys a proper chance. Don’t compare them to the guy from your past but judge them on HOW they treat you. That’s a start and sooner or later you’ll meet a great guy who treats you well AND with whom you have chemistry. Good luck!

    3. Laurel, yes, people can have a chemistry so strong it connects them for what seems an eternity. I was in such a relationship. The chemistry was like romance novel/movie phenomenal. However, I knew I was more invested in the relationship, which would mean more pain/suffering for me when things ended. I also realized that as much as I wanted to be a friend/be there for him, sometimes people have to sort things out on their own so that they can grow. I had to first be completely honest with myself. Then, after an honest conversation with him, I ended things. You will have different chemistry with different people. Now, I’m in a happy, healthy relationship- no crazy fireworks but a comfort/security, the kind where people grow old walking hand-in-hand together into the sunset, and it feels pretty sweet. Simply put, if it’s not a fuck yes from both people, then it’s a no. (I encourage you to read “Fuck yes or no” by Mark Manson).

      1. Thank you. In the beginning he was a PMI no doubt. I was on the mend from him until he got sick then my affection and emotional connection grew stronger I felt selfish not being able to be just a friend and never have the guts to say anything knowing he appreciated my support. Our friendship goes back almost 40 years. It’s been tough but I continue to move forward so not to miss out on meeting a more suitable man. I’m proud to say I do not follow him on any social media and I never initiate any contact. Unfortunately it still feels like he’s always with me. Crushes are the worst. But as we all know, you can’t understand love without knowing heart break and feeling something is better than feeling nothing because that is what it means to be alive. Thank you again Mary

  • That made my day. So funny. Yep, seeing a few MPI’s right now. Hard to move on when they’re the only thing happening in your world right now tho.

  • Hey Matthew
    You’re so right! Everything you said.I’m in that situation right now. I will stop texting him and don’t answer his text after a day or two. Thanks much! I bet you know how to treat a woman right and you know when the right comes along.

  • Matt, I love this post and it’s my personal approach to dating. But the problem I’ve encountered is that the majority of guys are MPI so nowadays they are ALL wasting my time. Are there any single men who will actually put forth effort and pursue a woman!

  • I seriously wish I would have seen this a year ago, I’ve spent my time, love and concentration on an idiot and it is obvious he’s just not into me, thank you for everything Mathew!

  • Omg, I somehow missed last week’s video. But I now saw both and the first thing I did was send the video to my MIP

  • The bloopers! Awesome. Just say no to MPI guy ladies. They WILL take valuable time from you. I’ve learned this the hard way. :-( And this goes for girl friends too! If they’re not investing, it’s not reciprocal and that never feels good!!

  • This is great I’ve shared it with some friends. I particularly loved the crossing off of the bad buys… but Matthew what would be really useful is if some way we were able to work out is whether the guys we meet who don’t seem to be investing in us as much as we need are a) not investing enough because we are just placeholders for them until something better comes along or they are b) great guys, but we have become so high maintenance because our idea of what we want is so unobtainable that no man will be it… this is (in my opinion) the no.1 reason we keep hold of them… it’s the fear that it’s actually all in our heads and we could be losing something that’s actually quite good…. have we become our own worst. Nightmares?!

  • This was a great follow up to mpi guy. I like your videos as it really gets me thinking and helps me keep true to me and I know I am wasting time with my current guy but I can’t stop because I do love him :( and I know he doesn’t deserve what I give.

  • When you’re right, you’re right…
    Not to try or wait for wrong to turn to right but to actually start with Right. Time to Mr Right;deploy mission stopwatch. There should be a song for this…
    Awesome gift, thank you!

  • You are Sooo Funny.
    I love you videos they are “bullshitless”.
    You give it straight to the face(That is how we say in in Israel).
    I am 49 years young and still learning a lot from you.

    THANK YOU :)

  • Great video. Spent years on one guy. Yep years! Finally said no more of his MPI crap. But he still calls me every few months so I need to stop responding completely. He can go MPI someone else! Those 3 letters are now in my dating dictionary checklist.

    Thanks Matt for your very clear message.

  • Thank you for the follow up. These videos have been brilliant. I have an MPI of two years — yes two freaking years!!!! ….which I am doing my very best to move on.

    I.tend to.be way too nice so….

    It’s like you just granted me.permission to be ruthless.

  • Thank you Cassie for your reply. I appreciate your feedback. Unfortunately I am well aware of all the things you said & Matthew’s strength he instills in his clients and that is what shames me the most. Luckily he has no clue for I have kept my composure, never waiver for these 2 years. But it’s way more complicated than that After I broke it off he was diagnosed with cancer and I was a huge support for him since it is in the field I work. He continues to reach out to me because I’ve become important in his life. I have always wanted to say something in hopes he would stop contacting me, but I don’t want him to know or show any weakness. I feel I be letting down a friend. This is my problem. He really has no clue. It’s hard enough to even say it here.
    So MATTHEW, I ask you do you have any suggestions on how I can tell a friend that he is hurting me by staying in contact with me and still keep the door open for a friendship when I am ready? I feel anything you would say could help.

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