Flirting For Introverts: 3 Authentic Ways To Get Him Interested

You may have told yourself 100 times you’re ready to finally meet someone. Maybe you even read a few dating tips and decided to go try them out. But then, you realize: I can’t do this. I’m too much of an introvert.

If you’ve ever used this excuse before, then get ready. Because I have 3 techniques today that are going to change your dating life forever…

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If you consider yourself to be an introvert, I am about to give you three words that are gonna change the way you think about attraction forever.

Peak-End Rule The Peak-End Rule The psychological heuristic in which people judge an experience largely based on how they felt at its peak, and at its end, rather than based on the total sum or average.

To understand this rule… You need only think of a broadway show, a movie, or a concert, and how there are moments in these shows that can actually be quite boring.

There are moments in a concert where there are five songs in a row that you don’t care about.

But if the concert…

If the movie…

If that broadway show ends with a bang, or has a really emotional peak moment somewhere within it…

That tends to be the part that we remember.

It colors our entire experience of the thing.

If you are an introvert the psychology of this is gold to you.


You might be the kind of person that ninety percent of the time in a group gathering isn’t doing the talking.

You’re much more of a listener, an observer… You are the quiet one, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be the least memorable one.

Using the Peak-End Rule you can insert yourself at just the right moment, and say just the right thing that actually gives you more impact than everybody else, and there are three practical ways that you can do this.

First, compliments.

So let’s say you’re in a group dynamic.

The guy you like has been talking a lot.

You haven’t been talking at all.

You wait till it dies down until you have maybe a moment on your own with him, and then you can say, I like the way you tell stories.

Like you have this passion in you when you tell a story. It’s cool.

In that moment you’re reminding him that you were there. Even though you were quiet. You were listening. You were paying attention, and secondly, that just because you’re quiet it doesn’t mean you’re not confident, and it doesn’t mean you can’t be direct.

You can also make use of the Peak-End Rule by issuing a challenge to someone.

Let’s say you’re in a group of friends.

You’re in an environment where there’s something mildly competitive going on.

Maybe you’re playing darts, pool, bowling, table tennis…

Whatever, it doesn’t matter, but your crush is in the group, and normally your conversation with this person is a kind of pedestrian.

A bit vanilla. A bit monotonous.

You could charge it by saying to him, I’m really sorry for what I’m about to do to you.

And he’d be like ‘what?’ And you’d be like, I’m gonna crush you at table tennis, and I just…

I feel bad.

It doesn’t matter if everyone else in the group won’t stop talking.

The fact that you’ve charged the interaction with a challenge…

That’s gonna be more memorable.

And the third technique for applying the Peak-End rule is the spontaneous test.

So let’s say you’re in this group of people, and the subject of desserts or sweets comes up.

You could say to a person that you haven’t spoken to all evening, So what about you, Matthew?

Are you more of a milk chocolate man or a dark chocolate man?

Now if they say milk chocolate, you can say, Wow. I got a lot of respect for that.

If they say dark chocolate, and that’s not really your thing, you could say, Okay, well…

We need to work on that.

If they say they don’t like chocolate, you can say, Who hurt you?

Okay, you know what? It doesn’t matter.

We can talk about this later.

You can literally say this about anything.

In fact, the more goofy the example the better.

It’s the playfulness in this that creates the spike.

And by the way, when you’ve been quiet, but all of a sudden you use someone’s name.

You address them specifically, So what about you, Matthew?

It’s like… It gives someone a tingle.

It’s like… Oh, they… . You know…

They’ve been paying attention to me, right? Without me even knowing it.

Suddenly you’re on someone’s radar in a different way.

Never, ever, ever use being quiet, or being introverted, or even being shy as an excuse not to go out there and flirt, and create attraction, ’cause you can do all of these things in a way that fits with your nature and your personality.

Now if you like this video, because it gave you very practical things you can do to flirt.

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32 Replies to “Flirting For Introverts: 3 Authentic Ways To Get Him Interested”

  • This is like the best ending I’ve ever seen :) I’ve noticed that since I started complimenting people I get very positive reactions. Not complimenting on random things of course. My life definitely improved since I’ve started following your channel. I really wish you could come to Europe to talk :(

  • Matthew,

    Absolutely wonderful, I am so impressed of your coaching to both men and women in the fashion and style of flirting, and the general playful nature of love that blooms real passion and love, the fire, the life, the good for the soul stuff. Sometimes just saying is all what people need to wake up from not so successful behavior patterns. I want to say, THANK YOU, for caring about people like this, to coach them into improving their lives in a way that is immeasurable, unconditional, and definitely needed. Your making big ripples!


  • OMG, how did you know? That’s how I end every interaction with a guy…. you stole my moves!!!

    I’ve never been accused of being shy (quite the opposite) but still got some great ideas for openers. Loved it.

    Thanks, Matthew!

  • Oh my god the ending :D :D I was JUST thinking that it kinda ended flat when it was about the peak-end rule and that was kinda funny. This was brilliant :D

  • No,am not, but I still wanna join your program, so I keep trying to go true am not know gave up am know keep trying, on till I make it, so thank you Matthew. “l”ll

  • Thank you, Matt, for representing us introverts! I’m never the super chatty one in a crowd and sometimes feel like I should be. But that peak-end rule is a great tip. Very doable. And the dancing ending was spectacular!

  • Great advice, thank you for helping introverts like me. The ending was so funny. You guys crack me up. The new pillows on the couch bring a nice pop of color too.

  • Thnks dear.. . You are so perfect.. so awesome for me… but you and me so far way… where you are stay now dear

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