Whether you want to improve your career, stabilise your love life or just have more control in social situations, having a better understanding of men is going to help with all these things.
Although there is no silver bullet when it comes to understanding men there are definite principles that I hope will help you reconsider your approach to the men around you.
So here it is, my beginners guide on how to understand men.
A crucial difference between men and women
The most fascinating difference between the way men and women think can be seen in a study I read about recently.
When asked which they would prefer; their partner to have sex with someone else (as a one off), or fall in love with someone else, overwhelmingly men said they would prefer their girlfriend to fall in love with someone else, whereas women choose the sex option.
What I’ve found incredible about this study is when you ask people the same question they virtually always conform to the study’s results; men choose love, women choose sex.
The psychology of the male mind
There is no better starting point than this in your quest to understand men. The simple truth is that the biggest threat to a man, evolutionarily speaking, is that he will devote his time to protecting and providing for a child that isn’t his.
The biggest threat to a woman is that her partner will fall in love with someone else and fail to provide for her. It’s outdated caveman stuff but the idea is hard wired in to our brains through millions of years of evolution.
How does this directly relate to understanding men in the 21st century? Watch and see. What are the men around you threatened by? How do they interact with other men? What are the characteristics that they are clearly most proud of?
Men like to feel manly!
I don’t like saying out loud but men are simple creatures, but then again, so are women. Just as women want to feel cared for and protected men want to feel like they are providing care and protection.
Just as women want to feel special, men want to feel like they are the ones that make them feel special.
The key to understanding men and women is the appreciation that both sexes are working to the same goal but from different perspectives.
Understand this and you will begin to understand how to move your relationships from average to life changing.
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