How To Get the Guy Podcast

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career. But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it.  At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of

When a relationship ends, or someone stops calling after several dates, do you need to know why? What does it mean to get “closure” in dating? As humans we put a lot of emphasis on how things end. We want answers: “Was it the way I dressed? Is it something about my body? Or something I did that turned you off? Was it too desperate?!” But what answers are we looking for? And how much brutally honest truth do we really want to hear? Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson try to figure out whether closure is overrated, what explanation we’re

Dating is tough. The person we’re meeting up with may have been on multiple other dates this month. How can we stand out when there seems to be so much competition? The #1 way to separate ourselves is through great conversation. And yet most of us spend all of our time trying to look hot without ever thinking about what we’re going to say when we get there. I’m sure you already have the “looking great” part taken care of. But in today’s video, I cover the “what to say” part—specifically, how to stand out by asking one of 8

We all long for financial independence, relationship bliss, greater familial connection, and a generally peaceful life with fewer hardships. But as it happens, life doesn’t care about the straight-line trajectory we've planned for ourselves. But life is cyclical and doesn’t trend in just one direction. This is why it is imperative for us to take our focus off of where we feel we “ought to be” and make peace with life as it is today. It is our job to cherish and learn from the wisdom gained from our past experiences instead of wishing things had gone a different way.

It's easy when we like someone to feel like we have to make excuses for their avoidant behaviour. Sometimes they may have genuine psychological issues that need to be resolved. But how much should you wait in limbo if the person you're dating still hasn't figured themselves out? Should their issues with their previous ex be an excuse to not move forward? And what can you do about it? Matt, Jameson, Stephen and Audrey sit down to talk about dating a celebrity, being a "challenge", valuing yourself, and much more! --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)!

Who pays on a first date? Six years ago, I made a controversial video tackling this very subject, and it went viral. Millions of people watched and reposted it (wikiHow even used it as the definitive video answer to the question) . . . It was so popular that it went viral AGAIN earlier this year when someone posted it under the title “Man Humbles a Room Full of Women.” So this week, I decided to make a reaction video to my own video. --- Get My Best Solution to Your Current Love Life Issue. To Get Started, Go to