How many times have you panicked before sending a text to a guy you like because you were afraid he’d reject you? How many times have you felt paralyzed without the right words, worried that you’d give him the wrong impression or say something that would backfire?
over every text or email… replaying the words, wishing you’d said things differently.
because you’re worried it
will backfire.
because it just seems too confusing and too complicated.
This is exactly why I created How to Talk to Men. My quick-start guide includes 59 scripts you can customize in every situation – from flirting, to first dates, to texting and beyond.
These perfectly-crafted examples go beyond theory to show you how to take quick, confident action in your love life and get incredible results with men.
Poor communication is to blame for 99% of problems in new and existing relationships. If we express ourselves badly, we upset people or drive them away. Or we fail to say what we honestly mean and get less than we deserve – no one wants that. And because we never learn another way of communicating, we can get stuck repeating the behaviors that are sabotaging our love lives…
My sample scripts cover EVERY stage of dating and relationships (even the trickiest ones). You’ll never be caught off guard without knowing what to say again.
I give you perfectly-crafted sample scripts for every text or conversation. The point is not to use them verbatim (although you could!). I teach you the principles behind WHY they work, so you can make them your own… and get the results you deserve!
Because I teach you WHY the words work, not just WHAT to say, you’ll always have a “True North” on your Communication Compass; equipped to handle anything that comes at you in the future.
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I’ve Helped Millions of Women Get the Relationships They Deserve With Practical, Proven Advice
As the leading dating authority and confidence coach for women, I’ve helped millions of women get the love life of their dreams through my New York Times bestselling book, sold-out live seminars, and step-by-step online coaching and training videos. And I’ll do the same for you.
My approach is honest, authentic and practical; so that you not only get the relationship you deserve but feel confident and in control of your own happiness.
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I am the one who proposed and he said yes. The next day he had a ring and proposed right back. So many things have changed for me. I don’t take s**t from anyone anymore. I realized that I was a pushover and people used to take advantage of my kindness. I am still kind now, but firm with my boundaries.
I was graduating from high school when I purchased my first program, Impact. It was one of my most life-transformative experiences. Being part of this program allows me to stay accountable with myself, no matter the highs or lows in my day. It makes me feel less alone in this transformational journey. I know things can only move forward by progressing 1% better everyday.
Your tips worked! By the time I met my now fiancé online, I was super happy, self-assured and had a funny, friendly, flirty style that my fiancé said made me stand out as the most interesting girl he was talking to. And even though I’m plus sized, my fiancé tells me daily that I’m gorgeous, beautiful, sexy, and radiant. I’ve never felt so desired. I learned a lot about love and life on this journey, so thank you, Matt. I will always think of you as my teacher, mentor, and friend.
I first came across Matthew through his podcast on Spotify. At that time, all I knew was that I was feeling lost and needed some guidance. Fast forward 5 years, I’m the most ‘me’ I’ve ever felt. I set my own standards and expectations with how I want to live my life and what I want to achieve. I have the confidence to help other people. I have the confidence to try anything I want.
I am more empowered than I ever was in my entire 44 years of existence. I turn 45 this coming Wednesday, and I am happy I married the man I wanted.
We dated for 6 months. Broke up. Then I did Matthew’s advice on Get Him Running Back to You, and he did come back after a month and a half on Christmas eve. He proposed to me. 6 months later we were married.
In 2017, I decided to join the VIP program. Going through the program and virtually memorizing everything helped me finally make the decision that I was worth more than this and in July 2020, I ended my 17-year toxic relationship. Since the Virtual Retreat, I stayed on my path of growth, self love, and self worth.
The truth is, being successful in dating and relationships is not simply about confidence in who we are, it’s about competence in what we do. And most people (women and men) never learn how to communicate effectively.
There are very specific words and phrases we can say to a person to increase attraction. And, if we’re not careful, there are things we can accidentally say to decrease attraction.
If you don’t know the right words to say, you can’t communicate who you REALLY are in the most attractive, compelling way. And even more frustrating is when the man you’re interested in ends up with another woman (maybe even one who isn’t as good a match) because she knows this language of attraction.
You’re right. It’s not fair. So let’s level the playing field…
…I’ll show you How to Talk to Men and then YOU’LL win over other women because you’ll have BOTH: True warmth AND the ability to create and keep attraction through your language.
Every single one of the 59 scripts is a masterclass in the art of communication and psychology so you can assert yourself in a way that makes you even more irresistible to high-quality men.
How to Get Men to Approach you Every Time | p 19 |
How to Start Talking to a Guy (With Zero Chance of Rejection) | p 24 |
How to Approach a Guy Via Social Media | p 30 |
How to Flirt With a Guy You Just Met | p 35 |
How to Tell if He's Into You | p 37 |
How to Guarantee a Guy Swaps Numbers With You | p 41 |
How to Know who Should Text First | p 46 |
How to Get Him to Ask You Out | p 50 |
How to Make Fascinating First Date Conversation | p 53 |
How to Blow it on a Date (What NOT to Say) | p 58 |
How to Tease a Guy to Create Uncontrollable Desire | p 61 |
How to Use Touch to Drive Him Wild | p 70 |
How to Flirt With a Work Colleague | p 72 |
How to Text Him the Perfect Amount to Keep Him Wanting More | p 78 |
How to Charm Him With Your Texts | p 82 |
How to Use Fun Texts to Get Him Thinking About You Non-Stop | p 90 |
How to Get Him to Stop Texting and Just Call You Instead | p 92 |
How to Get Him to Stop Just Texting and Ask You on a Date | p 100 |
How to Make Yourself the Woman He Wants to Do Everything With | p 101 |
How to Have Great Conversations That He Doesn’t Want to End | p 104 |
How to Get Him to Open Up | p 109 |
How to Make a Man Fall in Love With Impressing You | p 116 |
How to Be the Woman Who Endlessly Fascinates Him | p 121 |
How to Make Him Feel Like a Man in 5 Simple Phrases | p 128 |
How to Get Him to Express His Emotions to You | p 132 |
How to Make Him Feel More at Home With You Than Any Other Woman | p 139 |
How to Make Your Man Feel Amazing With Compliments | p 143 |
How to Make Him Feel Needed By You (So He Won’t Ever Need Any Other Woman) | p 151 |
How to Make Him Melt With This Clever Bragging Technique | p 155 |
How to Respond to the Late Night Booty Call in a High Value Way | p 161 |
How to Respond to His “Sexting” | p 165 |
How to Slow Down His Sexual Advances and Make Him Even More Attracted to You in the Process | p 170 |
How to Respond to Last Minute Date Requests | p 173 |
How to Get Him to Change His Bad Behavior: 6 Powerful Techniques | p 177 |
How to Rekindle His Interest After He Disappears | p 194 |
How to Get Him to Pay Attention to You When He’s “Too Busy” | p 196 |
How to Ask if He’s Single ( Without Looking Desperate ) | p 205 |
How to Show You’ve Got Options (and Make Yourself Even More Desirable ) | p 210 |
How to Know When (and How Much) to Open Up About Your Past | p 216 |
How to Answer When He Says: “How Many Men Have You Slept With?” | p 220 |
How to Answer The Question: “Why Are You Still Single?” | p 227 |
How to Have the Condom Conversation (Without it Being Awkward) | p 233 |
How to Get Him to Have Sex the Way YOU Want | p 238 |
How to Keep the Sexual Spark Alive (So He Doesn’t Look Anywhere Else) | p 249 |
How to Turn Him On Even When You’re Apart | p 253 |
How to Approach Serious Topics With a Man Without Coming Off as Threatening | p 257 |
How to Express Your Frustrations to a Man | p 260 |
How to Communicate that You’re Unhappy With His Behavior | p 264 |
How to Have Arguments That Strengthen (Instead Of Ruin) Your Relationship | p 267 |
How to Diffuse an Argument: 7 Foolproof Techniques | p 272 |
How to Ask if He Is Seeing Other Women | p 281 |
How to Answer if He Asks Whether You’re Dating Someone Else | p 284 |
How to Know if You Are a Couple | p 287 |
How to Show Him You Are in Demand: 3 Simple Techniques | p 291 |
How to Use Sneaky Psychology to Raise Your Value in His Eyes | p 296 |
How to Make Yourself His Partner, Not Just His Hookup: 5 Powerful Phrases | p 301 |
How to Ask Him if You Are Exclusive | p 311 |
How to Get on His Mom’s Good Side | p 317 |
How to Handle the ‘Other Women’ In His World | p 321 |
How to React When He Says He “Needs Space” | p 332 |
How to Deal With His Bad Habits at Home | p 338 |
How to Know When to Say “I Love You” | p 345 |
How to Bring Up Marriage | p 353 |
Final Thoughts | p 359 |
Glossary | p 361 |
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Proven scripts that get you results, based on over a decade of coaching and research on love and the psychology of passionate relationships.
Over a dozen real-life texting-with-a-guy scenarios that teach you how to respond in a way that sets you apart from every other woman he has ever dated.
The 5 most important – but rarely used – compliments any man needs to hear to get him addicted to you. In this handy guide, I’ll show you how to use male psychology to flip his attraction switches whenever you choose.
How to pre-screen your dates (so you can STOP wasting your time) by asking these 4 revealing questions on a 5-minute phone call. If he fails these questions, don’t date him! If he answers correctly, you know he’s a keeper. All in 5 minutes!
How to create the most perfect dating profile ever with a real world example. Line by line, I’ll show you exactly what makes this case study so compelling, so you can tweak your profile for better results.
The 10 most effective texts you can send to any man – in all kinds of situations – in this handy cheat-sheet you can keep in your wallet or purse. You’ll never be caught without something perfect to say!
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